The Long Awaited Ethiopia Post

I am bucking adoption blogging tradition and lumping my entire trip into one post.  I am pressed for time (with two active kids and all) and the trip was much more uneventful than our first adoption trip.  Just let me say that the plane ride to Ethiopia was absolutely awful–last row, seats so old their was no cushion left–long and no sleep was to be had. 

Monday June 23
I was jolted out of a dead sleep by the phone.  It was Gail calling to tell us she’d be picking us up at 9:45 am to go to Wanna and get Peepers.  It was an awesome phone call and I couldn’t wait.  We didn’t get this phone call the last time.  We tagged along with the other family who was getting their baby and in hindsight I wish I would have waited for the call so that we didn’t have the turmoil and pain of waiting.  Anyway, this is Peepers adoption story not Minnows.  I looked at the clock and we had a little over an hour to get ready before Gail would be picking us up…Waiting in the lobby was hard, I just couldn’t wait to go and hold Peepers.  It seemed I had been waiting so long to hold her–but in reality it was just about 4 months since we had received our referral. Gail met us and took us on the long drive to the AAI compound.  It really should have been a short drive, but there is a lot of construction happening on the route to AAI’s compound and the drive took a little longer than usual.  I was so happy to see all of the construction and development happening.  I know that it only means those with money have more, but it does provided for lots of jobs and more opportunity. 

Arriving at Wanna was surreal and really did feel like it had been just yesterday that I was there.  I was exactly the same and the faces were the same as well.  It was nice to know that those who had loved Minnow were now loving Peepers.  I was the only family there to pick up kids the week we were there…this was great as we got lots of personalized attention this trip.  We walked in to the baby room and Peepers was being help by one of the nannies.  Gail went over and took her and brought her over to me.  It was an awesome moment. 
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I was so happy at the instant and holding her felt so natural as though she had always been my daughter.  It was a great moment.  The nurse came in to give Peepers her medicine (for the ear infection) and to tell me how to administer it.  They went over her schedule with me and told me a few things about her–she doesn’t like a wet diaper and her bottom is rather sensitive she gets diaper rash really really easily and that she doesn’t like to be warm when she sleeps–no pants, etc.  She is quite a little furnace and puts off a lot of body heat. 

We hung out at Wanna a little bit more and then we arranged to come back to Wanna the following day to take a tour (we hadn’t done this with Minnow) and arranged to go to Nazret on Thursday with an AAI social worker to see the hospital where Peepers was taken when she was found.  All in all it was awesome.  We went back to the hotel and hung out with Peepers there and just got to know each other a little.  It was so low-key and completely stress-free aside from the fact that I had a new little human whom I knew nothing about. 

Tuesday June 24
AAI’s driver Dawit picked us up and took us to Wanna so I could get pics of the babies and we could take a tour.  Dawit was then going to pick us up a few hours later to take us shopping.  Wanna/Layla is really an amazing place.  It is so much bigger than I had pictured.  It was amazing to see all of the kids.  I was so overwhelmed by the whole experience that I didn’t take any pictures on the tour and I feel really bad as it would be nice to have those pics.  Two of the volunteers currently working at AAI were actually adopted from Layla and have come back to give back.  That to me speaks volumes to the work that AAI does and the family atmosphere created at Layla.  It was great to meet them. 

Shopping was awesome and I wish I hadn’t been so tired and that I had known what I wanted to buy for myself.  There was so much, but I got a few things.  I have to say that I am absolutely the worst shopper ever, because I don’t bargain all that well.  Especially when it all boils down to a dollar or two.  I know I should and that I am being taken advantage of by the locals because I am a foreigner.  But it is hard when again it boils down to a dollar or two.  I got some great stuff for the kids–some t-shirts and a few traditional outfits.  We then headed on back to the hotel and hung out more with Peepers. 

Wednesday June 25
The embassy.  It was so simple and so easy.  It took about 3 minutes for our appointment.  We were in and out in under 15 minutes.  We did more hanging out at the hotel with Peepers.  We didn’t do anything around the city as I had done it all before and my dad was happy to hang out with his granddaughter.  It was really great to get to hang out in the room–eat room service, etc and get to know Peepers a little better and for her to get comfortable with me.  By this day it was obvious she understood that I was her mommy and would be the one to take care of her.  If she couldn’t see me she would cry and she would reach out for me and would instantly stop crying when I would hold her.  It amazes me how aware these babies are and how quicklly they learn and understand that their new mommy and daddy love them and are there to take care of them. 

Thursday June 26
This was by far the most emotional day of our trip.  Going to Nazret was a real treat.  We know where Minnow is from and even had an address of where he was left and the name of the woman who cared for him and brought him in.  But we didn’t go and looking back I regret that so very much as it would have been a priceless experience.  Our trip was so emotional with Minnow that I understand why we didn’t try to go and see but I do deeply regret it. 

The drive was really really long–about an hour and a half through the urban countryside.  The amount of traffic amazes me and gives me hope that there really is some good development happening.  We did see a couple of accidents on the road to Nazret and we did have a donkey walk right out in front of us as we were doing 60 mph–Dawit did an awesome job of missing the donkey.  It was a harrowing effort.  We arrived in Nazret and it is a nice size city for a developing nation.  There isn’t the stark contrast between rich and poor in Nazret.  There are houses and strips of shopping stalls, etc. There were people milling about everywhere as if they were waiting for something to happen. 

We drove to the hospital and entered.  It was so weird and sad, as it is nothing like any hospital you have seen if you haven’t been to one in a developing nation.  We pulled up to the child/infant ward and there is a sign (I didn’t get a picture of it) that describes the ward as the child ward–where they take place of those who have no parents to take care of and nurture them.  It hurt every ounce of my being to see that sign an to think about the sheer numbers of children who have been found and brought to these small rooms to be cared for in a room that is just that a concrete room.  It is dark and depressing, isolated and lonely.  I think of her time here and am happy that they were able to nurse her to health (she was very sick when she was brought to them) but I am sad that that hospital is in such a state.  I know that my standards are western and first world standards but there could be something done to make the orphan’s ward a much more welcoming place. 

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her bed for the week she was in the hospital

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the nurse who loved and named her

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The first photo of her at the hospital

We had lunch in Nazret and had to wait around for hours to bring a new child back to AAI’s compound.  Everything in Ethiopia happens on Ethiopia time–which means when I get there.  It was a long day and again made me appreciate everything that our agencies go through to make our adoptions happen.  I am forever grateful to the work of those who have made it possible for us to be a family. 

Friday June 27
We picked up Peepers passports and said good-bye.  We arrived at the airport early and still didn’t get a bassinet seat, but we were able to get an extra seat between us on the flight home and that made it all the more bearable.  Peepers did awesome on the flight and it was great to arrive home.  Home forever…June 28, 2008. 

The Haze Is Beginning To Clear

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I knew this transition from one child to two would be hard.  Boy oh boy, did I underestimate just how hard it would be.  I am sure the difficulty is made worse by my own fatigue and stress about about the new baby, etc.  I have found myself completely at my wits end when it comes to dealing with the new baby.  I love her completely, but I just don’t know what she wants half of the time.  I am beginning ot figure it out–if completely by accident–tonight is a perfect example.  I was feeding Peepers her bedtime bottle.  She was falling asleep while eating–YAY–but then would wake up when I put her down.  She’d start kicking her feet and giggle a little.  I was getting so frustrated after three times of this eating, falling asleep, laying down, waking up thing, that I just put her down and walked away.  Well, Hubby went in to check on her three minutes later and she was fast asleep.  Unbelievable.  I was so happy to finally have figured something out. 

Minnow is adjusting better than I could have expected.  Part of his easy adjustment has to be due to the fact that we have not in anyway pressured him to hang out or spend any time with Peepers.  He is beginning to get a lot more curious and interested in her.  It is really cute.  they are going to be buds–someday. 

We are beginning to settle into a routine–a loose routine, but a routine and it is welcome.  Peepers napped twice today for the first time and the naps were of a good length.  I know it will take time, but I am happy to see everything moving towards the direction of manageable. 

I know I haven’t really posted about the trip to Ethiopia but I haven’t had time to really sit down and write.  I have been so tired–which is why I really wish I would have taken my laptop to Ethiopia with me.  I will write about it and post about it soon.  I promise.  In the meantime here are a few pics of Peepers in Ethiopia–I have lots of pictures since we have been home, I just haven’t loaded them onto my computer yet.  I will, I promise.

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But for now–we are just surviving. 

Home Loud Home

It has been pure chaos here at Casa de Minnow y Peepers.  Minnow is not so sure about this whole baby sister thing.  He wouldn’t really look at her at all on Saturday and has slowly been warming up to her a little bit.  A very little bit.  At this rate, by the time she goes away to college he’ll have fully accepted her. 

She is teething and it is excruciating.  She has been crying for hours today non-stop and isn’t sleep which means I am not sleeping.  So, I am very very crabby and very very tired.  And I don’t have anything really positive to say right now.  I have been told that Minnow was just as bad when he was teething, etc.  But I don’t remember that at all. That must be why I was so excited to have another kid.  I hope to have some time (aka-energy) tomorrow to post pictures, etc. 

We are going to the Dr. tomorrow–Peepers came home with and ear infection and a rash.  It’s been really really fun around here.  More positive and happy updates forthcoming.  I promise.  Okay, I don’t promise, but I certainly hope. 

Sweet Sweet Perfection

I have her in my hands and she is perfect.  It was so amazing and easy this time.  She is so perfect.  She is so tiny.  Her little feet.  I have never seen feet so little.  She is eating and happy.  She is in love with her mommy and pretty happy with her grandpa.  She has her two bottom teeth already and her gums are slightly swollen and I am sure more are on the way.  She can roll over and has some neck and back strength but needs to work on that.  She hates to be on her belly and rolls over immediately but she needs to be on her belly so she can lift her chest up–she can’t do that yet. 

Again, she is perfect.  She is napping now and I just stare at her.  She has an awesome smile.  But is so very tiny.  Her torso is long but her legs are a little short.  She is wearing 3 month clothes and they are pretty perfect for her.  So glad I bought some extra stuff that was small. 

We are going back to AAI tomorrow for a tour and to take photos for all of those families who are waiting.  I have letters to deliver and then on Thursday we are going to Nazret with an AAI social worker to see where she was.  I am so excited about that.  I hope to get my shopping done tomorrow and should be able to in the afternoon. 

She is amazing and happy and so aware.  She looks at everything.  I am so very in love and she knows I am her mommy.  It’s amazing. 

Leaving On A Jet Plane (or Two)

It’s early…My first flight doesn’t leave for 6 hours but who could sleep at a time like this?  I am so excited and nervous and happy and anxious.  This adoption is slightly different from our first.  Peepers is a little more than 2 months older than Minnow was.  Peepers was nearly 4 months old before she was moved to Wanna from Sele Enat whereas Minnow was at Wanna from the time he was 20 days old.  Peepers is a girl and Minnow was a boy.  I know each child is different.  I worry about the ease and/or difficulty with attachment.  I hope she attaches as well as Minnow did.  I love her so much already.   I hope that she likes me.  I know she will because I will feed her, hold her, shower her with affection and really awesome clothes.  What girl doesn’t love clothes.  But I am a stranger.  She does not know that I am coming.  She does not understand why these people are taking her away.   I know she will eventually–I am hoping sooner rather than later–come to understand that we are her family.  I am worried because she is older and more aware of what is going on.  Those of you who brought your Ethiopian babies home when they were 7 months or older–have any awesome reassurance for me? 

I am packed and ready.  I have everything I need. 

Now off to the babe.  I hopefully will have brilliant and amazing stories to post on Monday.  Keep a look out for tales of my meeting with Peepers and my 58-year-old father’s first reaction to a developing nation and his first trip outside of the United States.  So much excitement. 

See you soon.