Minnow is fast approaching being a year and a half. I can hardly believe how fast the time has gone. When I knew I was going to be a stay at home mom, I joined a stay-at-home moms group. It has been a great group and I don’t know what I would have done without a group of women who were going through what I was going through. Our kids are various ages as are our reasons for staying home. We had our 2nd annual family picnic yesterday–where all the moms get to sit and chat, while our husbands watch and play with the kids. It was really nice and Minnow had a blast. I am so thankful that I have been able to stay home with Minnow. This feeling causes me to question my decision to attempt to go back to work as our next little one will be joining us around May (i am guessing). I have to wonder if she doesn’t deserve the same attention and parental bonding that Minnow did. Is it fair to her? Is it fair the the children that will hopefully come after her? I just don’t know and boy how I wish I had all the answers.
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Embracing Imperfection 
There is a saying that goes “no two kids are born into the same family”. It is true. Only one kid will be the oldest, only one will be the youngest. Only one will have x amount of brothers or sisters, the next one will x+1, etc. So no kid is born into the same family. It changes too radically per kid to stay the same. Everything changes.
Therefore, don’t sweat it when it comes to these kinds of things. Do what you want and what you can. You couldn’t possibly give any future kids the same attention and devotion you gave Minnow simply because Minnow will also be there. Being born first only happens to one.
But Minnow didn’t spend her first years with a big sis or bro throwing tons of love and affection her way like your next child will. My point is that you can never compare because nothing is the same! New factors make up for the lost factors!
P.S. Your mom group sounds wonderful!
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I am a dope! I should have read your “about page” first, huh? I didn’t realize Minnow was a little boy. (I have a friend who’s neice is named Minnow, so I had little girl in my head the entire time). Sorry about that!!! Such terrible blog etiquette on my part. I read your first post and had to jump right in, then went poking around and discovered my blunder.
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Those adorable elbows!!!!
Sweet, sweet child….
Mary
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