I just want to start out by saying that I do indeed love my husband. But he has been irritating the piss out of me lately. Our relationship has always been pretty easy. We don’t argue or fight much–aside from this past 3 weeks and generally enjoy each other’s company. But lately, our marriage has sucked ass. I just don’t know what the hell is going on. He is fine one day and a bit of a jerk the next. One day when he’s pissy, he gets mad because I don’t try and talk to him about it. Then he’s pissy again and so I try to learn from my mistakes and talk to him and I get the whole, “you know I get upset about ______, can’t you understand I just want to be alone.”
Fuck.
Really. I am damned if I do and damed if I don’t. Things are just crappy. I am busy with school, the kids, teaching and running the house and he’s busy with work, and…well just work. I know that my endeavors don’t bring much money into the family, but I don’t remember the last time he showed much concern for me and how I am feeling, but he’s a little upset or stressed and the fricking world has to stop and revolve around him? I am so pissed and irritated.
It will all be fine, he’s got big plans for me this weekend–not that he really seems like he wants to spend that much time with me. UGH!
Embracing Imperfection 
The title to your blog post made me laugh. LOUD! Now, after reading, I must say I hear ya. We’ve had some spousal irritation here, too. We don’t generally fight much either. Last Friday, I wanted to teach Mamush how to say “child support” and “fuck you daddy” amongst other obnoxious things! I was sooo pissed! I hope it all gets better soon. MEN!
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Hang in there, Dawn – we’ve learned over our 9 years of parenting that we have to be especially gentle & forgiving with each other when there is a baby in the house. As wonderful as they are, the demands can be really stressful, especially if you’re bearing the brunt of them. Another tip we stole from friends of ours: get a sitter & have a date EVERY week. Seriously. Even if its just for coffee.
Hope its better soon — I’ll be thinking of you! Oh, and tell Bill that I’m on your side (-:
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I hear ya! You are not alone. Take time to be alone together….I know…LOL. You have a very full plate so maybe you should make time for you to have some alone time:)
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I’m sorry for the shittiness. It’s the damn kids! I keep telling myself I’m going to be patient as soon as Amelie starts going to sleep like a normal child and actually stays asleep. Try to swap a day of babysitting with a friend–it’s free, and the extra kids usually help entertain your kids!
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