Sorry Kiddo, No Flowers For You

Zoë is doing gymnastics and has been for about 12 weeks or so.  In the spring, her gymnastics club puts on a mini-olympics for the age groups who don’t compete at the USGA levels as a way to showcase their skills.  I think it’s a cute idea.  I remember my first club competition when I was about 8 or so–I actually had to remember and do a floor routine and a beam routine.  I remember being very nervous.  So, Zoë who is 3 had her “big performance” (that is how she dubbed it) yesterday.  She was with other kids ages 3-5.  It was really cute–they set up four circuits for the kids and they moved through them.  It was a bit like herding cats, but cute and Zoë kept looking into the stands and waving to us, etc.

I had noticed a few folks come in with bouquets of flowers.  My first thought was that they were for the older girl who would put on a show for everyone half way through the kids skill session.  I was taken aback when I started seeing other families with bouquets of flowers.  I thought, No these can’t be for these little kids.

I was so wrong.  There were at least 6 families that brought flowers in for their 3, 4, or possibly 5 year old gymnasts.  I was so surprised.  I couldn’t believe it.  I thought to myself, people really do this?  I could see if maybe they are really been part of a competition–but this was not a competition.  I still have a hard time believing it.

Zoë had fun and didn’t even notice the flowers.  She was much more enamored with her medal which she wore all day long.

2 thoughts on “Sorry Kiddo, No Flowers For You

  1. The worst is when other people start giving YOUR kids flowers, toys, chocolates etc…has happened to us, and as if we got anything in return for their kids!

    I know its not your fave, but on WFS they had some statistic about the arrogance of American students – how strong they THINK they are in areas where we are clearly lagging behind the rest of the world. I think this post illustrates the mentality behind that problem.

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  2. Steph–I totally agree. I think that kids they are good/strong at things because we are always telling them that they are. Kids get trophies for everything? No–you get one if you win. I think that is certainly important as they grow older–when you are 3/4/5 you are winning for making it through.

    I work really hard to reward hard work and not success and I try not to tell the kids they did great if they didn’t. It’s hard as a parent, but I want them to learn that working hard is important and that they aren’t always going to win.

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