The Best Laid Plans of Mice and Men

So, in my haste to go to New Orleans for Jazzfest with my bestfriend, hubby and I both forgot that hubby’s brother and family were coming to town for a couple of days to meet Minnow for the first time–yes that is right the first time.  So all I can say is SHIT.  Hubby is obviously staying behind and I am trying desperately not to.  I so want to go.  I also don’t want to lose the stupid change your airline ticket fee–but that is what I get for being spontaneous and not writing everything down on my calendar.  I am hoping I can still go with my best friend.  If not, I’ll suck up the fee and say “Maybe next year New Orleans”.  Damn it, I want to see billy joel.  I want crawfish monica, I want Cafe Du Monde….

PS…yes I totally know I should want to stay home and be with Minnow when he meets his uncle, aunt and 2 cousins for the first time.  I do know that, but just because I know it doesn’t make it true. 

Such A Dark and Racist History The US Has

I consider myself and educated person.  I have read extensively and my liberal arts education exposed me to many things that I certainly didn’t learn in high school.  Sadly, there is so much more that I didn’t know.  I am taking the first class toward my doctorate this semester and it is a really great educational foundations course.  The course examines society and social justice not only in education, but throughout history.  I am currently reading and amazing book about our countries deeply rooted racist history–Deculturalization and the Struggle For Equality.  The book begins with an overview of the atrocities that our forefathers founded this country on.  We are all taught that Columbus discovered America–sadly we are not commonly taught that he discovered America only to find out that there were already people living here who had lived here successfully for thousands of years.  These “savages” were seen as less than human as they had not accepted Jesus and Christianity into their lives.  Our heavily religious Puritan founders believed that they were better than the Native Americans and set forth to convert them to Christianity and to their own protestant beliefs in hard work (i.e. constant work) and the accumulation of wealth–personal wealth certainly not wealth of the community/tribe.  These values were in direct opposition with that of the native Americans who believed in sharing everything with each other and with working when they needed to but relaxing when they could.  

Fast forward to the writing of the constitution, after which we successfully rid “our” land of these “savages” who were less than human.  Our founding fathers–these gentlemen we revere as “GREAT” men believed “that citizenship should be limited to free whites.  This agreement was based on the opinion that a republican form of government could only survive with a homogeneous white population.”  Native Americans were not granted American citizenship until 1924–yes the recent 1924–and even then there were second class citizens.  They are still treated that way. 

I could go on and on about the repression of the non-whites who helped build this country but we know much of that.  We took the land from the native americans under the belief that if they weren’t using it or making improvements to the land then the white man had every right to take it for their own use. 

All of this racism happened sadly in the name of God and Jesus.  The native american had a different believe system than our Anglo founders.  Because of that they were wrong and we had every right to take what they had and to control and convert them.  The same thing then happened with Africans, Chinese and Central Americans.  What happened to the Native americans was a genocide perpetrated under the name of Jesus.  How are our founders different than those who wage war now in the name of God?  We are civilized.  We are white. 

I often wonder why we cannot learn to tolerate and accept each other differences and all?  Well the history is there and it goes beyond the racism in America but speaks more to the racism around the world–both ethnic and religious.  As long as one group feels that they are superior to another group we will not know harmony.  As long as we try to assimilate people into the world we accept–not just expecting these groups to learn our language–but expecting them to take our values as their own we will continue to struggle with racism. 

This is what makes Obama a man for change.  I see the importance of his campaign and his success now.  I could keep writing on this topic but I will hold off for now as I can’t imagine anyone is still reading at this point.  If you are, still reading that is, how do we combat hundreds of years of racism? 

Laissez Les Bons Temps Rouler!

As they say in nawlins (new orleans for those not in the know).  I am so happy to be going to New Orleans Jazz and Heritage Festival.  I am so excited.  Hubby and I haven’t been in 4 years.  Hubby use to go every year with friends and then I was lucky enough to get to go with him and his friends a few times.  It is a blast if you like good music, food and good times.  We are leaving Minnow with my dad and bonus mom–for the first time.  I get to see Sheryl Crow, Robert Plant, Billy Joel, etc.  Awesome!!!

And The Award For Crappy Daughter Goes To…

Me.  Yesterday was my dad’s birthday.  The man who helped create me.  The man who worked 2 jobs to support and raise his family.  The man is the most awesome grandpa to our son.  It was his birthday yesterday.  No, I didn’t forget it was his birthday.  That I remembered.  What did I do then you ask?  Well, I totally forgot to call him and wish him a happy birthday.  I cannot believe I forgot to call him.  I feel like a complete asshole. 

Sorry daddy.  I so totally love you. 

On the adoption front…we have now been waiting 32 weeks for our referral.  UGH!!!